You’re Dating In A Burning Building…and…you can do it way better!

I’m frustrated this morning.

I’m over here yelling that the building is on fire, smoke and heat from decades of failure is raging, and it feels like people are just sitting there, continuing to date the old way, completely ignoring the oncoming danger.


Don’t believe me? The statistics more than tell the tale:

  • 70% of online daters don’t find what they are looking for.

  • The failure rate for first dates and pre-marriage relationships is incredibly high. It’s so high that we don’t even bother trying to assign a proper statistic to it.

  • 50% of the people who get married eventually get divorced.

  • There are over 2M marriages a year and over a million divorces a year. That’s a divorce every 30 seconds.

  • Very few marriages are thriving and genuinely happy. Only about 1 in 6. 17%. That constitutes an over 80% failure rate.

  • Most people believe that a good relationship is one in which the couple is happy with each other at least 75% of the time. That means in a 24 hour relationship day, the couple is unhappy with each other 6 hours out of every 24!   6 hours!   That’s an enormous amount of daily, never-ending discontentment!

  • These statistics have been basically unchanged for 50 years. The odds are overwhelming that, at some point in the process, you will fail just like everyone else (unless you make a radical change).

  • The current online dating sites don’t change any of these statistics. Tinder,, OkCupid, and eHarmony all leave you to follow the same path to failure.

Magical MatchesI’m telling you that there’s a shark in dating pool that eats at least 8 out of every 10 daters, yet you just keep on swimming like you’re going to be the 1 in 5 that the shark doesn’t drag down into the murky, crushing depths of dating rejection and relationship failure.

Think about it…

Would any of you attend university– pay for college, do all that work — if you knew that there was at least an 80% chance that it wouldn’t help? Would you go under the knife with a heart surgeon that had an 80% failure rate? Would you eat in a restaurant that the health board rates an 80% failure in food safety?


Then why in the world are you continuing to date and seek love relationships using the same old, failed approach and paradigms?

What I’m trying to get you to hear is that there are fundamental flaws in the way we approach dating and relationships. These fundamental flaws are fatal. That’s why the statistics are so awful.

I should know. I’ve been on the failing side of the fence — married 20 unhappy years.

But it’s not all doom and gloom. Actually, it’s the opposite! There is great hope for success, if you are willing to think differently. I’m not talking about avoiding the shark. I’m talking about a dating pool in which there is no shark!

I have an amazing, deep love relationship with Judy. We’re not just part of the 20%, we’re part of the top 1%. We’re happy with each other more than 99% of the time. It’s incredible be in harmonious, wonderful, fulfilling, incredibly happy love with someone. Life is super! All we really want to do is to just be together. What we have is magical.

And it’s not by accident.

I found Judy by thinking different, by taking a different approach. The Mirror Effect and the 6 Steps found Judy out of the millions of online daters.

It can work for you too, if you’re willing to take a different path.

Exit the burning building. Don’t follow everyone else into the flames of failure. Become a student of a different way of thinking about dating and relationships.

Working together, you can find the same deep love that Judy and I share.

How Do You Become a Student of a Different Approach?

First, take some time to read about what the traditional approach is and understand why it fails. This way you’ll learn how to recognize what you’ve been doing wrong and how to avoid it in the future.

Second, learn about thinking differently with a different approach.

Third, ask questions! That’s what I’m here for! Ask your questions. Challenge me. Challenge yourself. Question the assumptions; uncover the dating and relationship myths; and begin walking the path to finding your own magical relationship. Post a comment or send me an email at

Fourth, join us. Don’t call us an online dating site. We’re in the deep relationship business. People ask me what makes different from other sites. The answer is “Everything”! If you just read TroyTalks and watch some of Mirror University, our different thinking will be obvious. And that’s just scratching the surface!

Our mission is to help you succeed. That why everyone who signs up with the Grand Opening Special receives a complimentary paperback copy of The Mirror Effect: More Than Soul Mates book. We aren’t here to just find you a date, but instead to help you find the relationship of deep love and happiness that feels magical.

About Troy

After divorcing from a 22 year traditional relationship of compromise, friction, and work, Troy discovered the Mirror Effect on a first date. The discovery had such a profound impact that it completely changed his views on dating and relationships.

Using the Mirror Effect, when Troy found Judy, their connection was so strong that they fell in love on their first date and were engaged in two months. Together now for five years, they share a deep love relationship of ease and harmony without the work.

Together with Team MM, Troy and Judy work to put people on a path to deep love that doesn’t lead to a 50% divorce rate. Their book, The Mirror Effect: More Than Soul Mates (6 Steps To Finding Your Magical Match Using Online Dating) rebuilds dating and relationships from the ground up to provide a dating and relationship progression that results in the deep, harmonious, frictionless relationships that people are looking for today. Their online dating and relationship website,, is designed to fully integrate the Mirror Effect and the 6 Steps.

Troy’s email box is always open! He enthusiastically encourages you to reach out with your questions or comments.

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